Live ;)

Three of them

Stood in front of me.

Beautiful, Perturbed and Contended.

For the life it has been,

For the friends,

For the moments,

For the Laughter, For the path,

For the travel and the emotions.

For the Lessons.

Came the Present,

The Doubts

The Sorrow

The Fear,

The Unhealed Wounds,

For the lost Autumn and the Spring.

For it has to offer,

To live it in the way,

To shed the inhibitons,

To realize

To Serve the Purpose,

Life Stood Beautiful.

Beautiful in the way only you can see ....if you choose..

10 important things for Parents if you have a kid born with anomalies.

 

1)As Parents we have the responsbility of raising up the new born, however hard it may sound. To run away from these responsbilities, is a Sin. You may be surrounded with so many thoughts ( most of them negative), to find alternative ways, but the only hope for the new entrant is You and Your Spouse. Never let them down.

 

2) Dont run around seeking opinions from all and Sundry. Sure there are concerned people and they have their views and ideas. But what suits your situation can best be explained  by  your Doctors alone. While it may sound rude to ignore these free ideas, take them and use if it is appropriate.

 

3) Never I repeat never expect Symapthy from others on the situation. It is natural for lots of people to show their concern and be around for some time. But mentally if you push yourself into a corner, expecting everybody to deal with you, with this on their mind is far from reality. Life Moves on and We dont need sympathy on this.

 

4)Dont ever Google/Bing or Search on the net on the subject. With due respect to the literature available in net, your situation is Unique and opinions not related to this only adds to the woes. I have myself found doing this and often ended feeling dejected only to be proven wrong. Get the Best Medical Support possible and leave the rest to them. You will do fine.

 

5)It is often frightening to accept this reality that your life has changed. It is tough to accept this. But once you accept this fact, you would turnaround the situation faster.

 

6) Maintaining a normal life Style may appear little difficult to start with. But please note that life goes and it does not stop because of any of these things. So you need to do what you have been doing all along and continue doing it better. Blaming our selves or our past is of no help and strangely has no connection to the problem in hand.

 

7) If you have siblings for the new born, it is very important to not to neglect them or ignore them during this Process. We have found that the more they are involved, the more affectionate they become with their Siblings. Some times they are the ideal medicine for all those affected kids. They heal it faster.

 

8)Having a Sober life style for some time really helps  especially if your kid would get rid of these anomalies soon . If you  are  a weekend person, who would normally travel/ party / go to malls or would have people to your house, reduce it to a great extent until things get normal. The advantages are that it helps the recurperating kid to avoid catching any infections and this also helps to build a great bond within your family. I have learnt more about my family in the last 6 months than in the last 6 years of time, and  I believe it is wonderful.

 

9)The parents need to have a very honest frank chat on the Situation in hand and clear everything which may disturb them. The responsbility of Father and Mother is very important to deal this and it is better if they are clear in terms of what they have to do and what to expect.

 

10) Never lose your Cheer. This is our life and we can make it better for ourselves. The recuperating kid is happy to See the surroundings happy, Since he has no idea of what he is going through ( which is the best part). A cheerful Disposition and a Positive mindset heals the Kids faster. Be happy that God has chosen you to deal with this and we are Still lucky that we can handle this.  

 

Note from Author. I had my Second Son ISHAN born of September 3rd 2010, who had multiple problems on his birth. He was Operated for Tracheoesophageal fistula on the 2nd day of his birth and Since he had an Imperforate Anus he was Operated for the same and has a Transverse Colostomy. Last month on 4th he was operated for the Imperforate Anus and the Dilation process is on. After two months, based on evalutation, his colostomy would be closed. Enclosed a 6 Month Old Ishan ;-)

 

If you have any of your kids affected on any of the above, and have any qns Which I could answer,Please shoot it to prakash2007@gmail.com. Also please note nothing of the above is Suggestive of any of your own unique conditions. Please use discretion in terms of tackling the way which best suits you.

Ishan's 3rd Surgery

4th March is Slated for Ishan's Pull Through Surgery. Indu and me cannot believe that he is now 6 months old. Dr Prasad explained to us, what exactly would go through on the D-day.It all seemed well. But with 2 days to go, anxiety is Paramount in both of our Minds. His smiles and boo boohs make our day really count. We are sad that he has to go through all this, but once this is over he is 75% allright and by June he would be truly on the path of recovery. Yeah life was little different for him. And he made it little different for us to. But he has made it wonderful and really worthwhile. Good Luck Ishan, we are with you.....

Love

As they say...

Nothing is Unconditional

Life has it conditions

We live the way it takes us,

or it ruins us

For the pain of losing,

we still take.

Friends have their conditons,

if you agree,

We Party else; opinions gets opinionated.

Success is conditional;

For it requires great effort;

Luck departs for those drifters;

Labelled Unlucky.

Pain is Conditional,

Yes we are conditioned to withstand pain,

Yet the efforts to nullify are in vain.

For all those losers,

Love; Love;Love

It is unconditional

It doesnt expect anything from you

but still gives everything back to you;

Only if you know and When you want.....

For it defines your life.......and beyond......

 

Money

Money is such a Powerful Sucker.. It sucks you into it like a Magic that by the time you realize you are in it,, you are already beyond no return..

I have never understood trading to be honest.. I didnt understand why should Public pay money to company in IPO and what does the companies do with that Money.. How are the Stocks for Sensex or NSE selected.. who selects them.... etc etc... although I can talk abt the subject as if I am one Professional Investor...

But the last few months,, I have been sort of fascinated by money. I read somewhere "Invest Wisely so that Money works for you.". ( it didnt exactly say I can Stop Working,, But I presume so...).. So I have been trying to find the best options to Invest... ( Not that I have huge bank Balance ) So I decided that for the next year or so I will invest an % amount in various forms of Investments and see how it goes.. THis is the Second Month in return and am happy to see your money growing without you doing anything significant....I will post you guys on how I Proceed. But as of now looks like time well spent..

Disclaimer ; This blog is not suggestive... You make your own Judgements on what to do with life and Investment ;-)

Graffiti on the Wall

I was a huge fan of Chennai Corp's decision to do away with hoarding.. THere was less clutter and the place looked more cleaner and Greener... There were also these drives to beautify overbridges and walls with ancient Paintings and stuff. All sounded well...

I am not sure whether this ban was extended for Posters also. But when I drive today, I see all the walls defaced by Political Parties by writing on the wall and Posters on them. The one which I saw today near Loyola College, had so many political names written in multi colors ( It is the respective Party colours u see). It looked so out of place and bad to see.

( Picture taken from http://sriramv.files.wordpress.com/2009/03/img_0141.jpg)

If Political parties cant change these ways, I guess Hoardings should be brought back. Atleast they are more creative in nature......

Its been almost 100 days ( 94 days to be precise). Junior seems to be doing ok. I love his "BOOH BAAHS" to start with and he is turning out as a Passionate Talker ;-) Here is one of the latest snap ;-)